Crystal Matrau-Belt gave birth to son Jeremiah on Saturday, December
13, following an emergency C-section at Bronson Medical Hospital in
Kalamazoo. She called her fiancé, Emil Skokan III, 34, and told him to
head to the hospital. Her mother Peggy Nichols, 53, was traveling to
Matrau-Belt’s house at the time, so she and Skokan decided to ride to
the hospital together.
“I got a text from (Emil), ‘Do you want me to bring up anything?’ and
just said I’ll meet you up there and that he loved me,” she said in an
interview with Karamazoo Gazette on Monday.
Three
hours after she had her son, Crystal Matrau-Belt still hadn’t seen her
fiancé or her mother in the sea of other family members who had come to
meet the new baby.
“I asked my
stepdad, ‘Do you know where Emil is?'” Matrau-Belt recalled. “My dad
said, ‘Honey, that’s what we need to talk to you about.’ I just all of a
sudden had a sinking feeling something was wrong. I just didn’t know
that it was my fiancé and my mom.”
Matrau-Belt’s
fiancé, Skokan had been driving himself and Matrau-Belt’s mother, to the
hospital for the birth of his son just before 4 p.m. Saturday, when he
lost control on a stretch of South 26th Street near Cork Street in Comstock Township. The car hit a tree, killing Skokan and Nichols.
“Losing two of the most important people in my life at the same time as
bringing a child into the world, it’s like happy and the most
heartbreaking thing,” Matrau-Belt said. “I waited so long to be able to
have a child, and to have a child but then have two things ripped out of
my life, it’s just really hard to deal with and even process.”
Jeremiah
came into the world a bit unexpectedly. Matrau-Belt, 24, had gone to
her doctor for a checkup Friday afternoon, but because of her high blood
pressure and because she was already 39 weeks along, her doctor decided
it was time to send her to the labor and delivery unit to be induced.
Matrau-Belt
was still in labor Saturday and got an epidural. Not long after, she
had a bit of a scare when her blood pressure dropped and she blacked
out. She was stabilized, but her labor wasn’t progressing and she didn’t
want to put the baby at any more stress, so she opted for a C-section.
Shortly
after she had the scare, she contacted her fiancé and told him to head
to the hospital. Peggy Nichols happened to be on the way to
Matrau-Belt’s house and then planned to head to the hospital, so she and
Skokan rode together.
“I got a text from (Emil), ‘Do you
want me to bring up anything?’ and just said I’ll meet you up there and
that he loved me,” Crystal said.
That was the last time she heard from her fiancé.
Once
she decided to go for the C-section she again tried to contact Skokan,
but couldn’t reach him. That in and of itself wasn’t unsusual, but
Matrau-Belt said she felt something was amiss.
“They had
brought my stepdad out of the room, but no one told me anything,”
Matrau-Belt said. “I couldn’t get a hold of them. Instead of stressing
me out, they just really wanted me to go and get the C-section done.”
Matrau-Belt’s
stepmother stayed with her during the delivery. While she was in
recovery, other family members came to visit. Once she was out of
recovery, her aunt took Jeremiah out of the room and Matrau-Belt
questioned where her fiancé and mother were.
Matrau-Belt
and Skokan had spent her whole pregnancy disagreeing on the name for
their son. On Friday, when it was evident the baby was coming sooner
rather than later, she suggested Jeremiah.
“We actually for the first time decided on a name together,” Matrau-Belt said, pausing to wipe away tears.
Matrau-Belt and Skokan decided Jeremiah’s middle name would be James, after her stepfather’s middle name.
Matrau-Belt,
a Kalamazoo native, and Skokan, a Parchment native, had plans for their
future together. They wanted to move out of their home in Pavilion
Estates.
“He had told me a few months back that he wanted
to get married, but he wanted to make sure I was ready, so we could all
have the same last name,” Matrau-Belt said. She stopped, sobbing.
“He wanted to step up and make sure he was a good father to him,” Matrau-Belt said.
Matrau-Belt described her fiance as “caring, hard-working, really smart.” He would have celebrated his 35th
birthday Sunday. He loved tinkering with his fish tank and their
20-plus fish. Along with Jeremiah, Skokan is survived by two other sons,
Emil Skokan IV and Kayden Skokan, according to his obituary.
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